Our flaws are our weaknesses, our imperfections, our mistakes, our limitations. They make us angry, they cause us develop low self-esteem and feel inferior especially when we come across someone who seems perfect in that area. My dear readers, whether we like it or not, we’re all flawed. Not a single one of us is perfect, and that’s one of the great things about life. But I want you to understand today that the key to overcoming our flaws is knowing how to accept them and improve on them, because no matter how bad we feel about them, it will not help the situation.
Jean Vanier said, “Growth begins when we begin to accept our weaknesses.” Yes, we begin to grow when after we have identified our weaknesses, we take actions to work on them and improve rather than feeling bad.
Accepting our flaws and weaknesses is taking responsibility for our actions and a sign of strength.
There are some flaws that are obvious (e.g a particular body disability), and some are not noticed until they are pointed out to the individual by people around. Most of the time this has to do with a particular trait or character in a person that is affecting people around negatively (e.g being hot tempered). It is easier to accept those flaws that are obvious to oneself than to accept those that are being pointed out by others. When these flaws are pointed out, statements like “that’s my nature, I can’t change it” are made, No! You can change and even change for better! All you need to do is to change your perception about how you see your flaws, you need to change your reactions towards them.
Here is a mini guide to overcoming our flaws:
- Identify your flaws. You can do this by thinking deep and pointing out your weakness, seek opinions from people around you on what they think about you.
- Accept those weaknesses pointed out to you.
- Identify ways of improving on yourselves. You can do this by reading more about how to improve, pray for God’s intervention, and consciously follow steps on how to improve.
- Avoid self-criticism. Treat yourself with loving compassion and respect. Instead of telling yourself off, speak to yourself calmly. When negative thoughts and feelings come to you, don’t allow them rule you, instead counter them with positive thoughts.
Knowing you’re flawed is not a weakness, but rather a strength.
It’s only by recognizing them that we can account for them, better predict outcomes and work to improve them. Denying flaws will only lead us to making the same mistakes over and over again, and to appear oblivious to casual observers.
Therefore, you learn to accept your flaws today, and take steps to improve on them, that’s the only way you can overcome them.
Till next time, growth is life, endeavor to grow daily, #GrowWithBolanle.