It’s quite funny how quickly co-workers, strangers, and even family members forget that a pregnant person is still, well, a person!
Curious questions, while understandable, often cross the boundary from pleasantly interested, to judgmental.
For example, your parents may be dying to know whether you’ll quit your job after the baby, and your neighbour wants to know whether you intend to wean your baby after 6 months or 8 months.
When in doubt, remember that intrusive questions are usually better left unasked.
Here’s a list of the top things you should never ask a pregnant woman.
“Are you hoping for a boy or a girl?”
I am hoping for a baby. The most important thing in this pregnancy is my baby irrespective of the gender. So, Mummy, please shift! and let my baby pass whether boy or girl!
“Well, when I was pregnant…”
Let me just stop you there. I am going through this like I’m the only person who has ever been pregnant in the history of the earth. So I don’t want to hear about your negligible weight gain or horrifying hemorrhoids.
“Have you picked out a name yet?”
Yes, but I don’t want to know if you dated someone with the same name in high school and that they broke your heart or whatever, so let’s just go with “No.” Abi, you don’t want to come to the naming ceremony? That’s why you want to know my baby’s name before his or her arrival.
“Wow, you’re so big!”
I don’t care if I blow up like a ballon and can’t see my toes. Keep it to yourself. I am pregnant. Being pregnant tends to make a girl gain a little bit of weight.
“Are you going to quit your job when the baby comes?”
Thanks for setting women back a century by asking that. Now please excuse me while I fetch my slippers.
“Do you plan on breastfeeding?”
Thanks for asking, but I really don’t want to discuss the future state of my nipples with you, weird lady.
Aren’t you a little young/old to have a baby?
When I want to get pregnant is mine and my husband’s choice. The family is a very private place meant for the husband, wife and their children, any decision you make as a family is yours. As an adult, I am also old enough to make the choice of when to get pregnant or not.
“You’re still pregnant?”
I don’t think I need to answer this one!