What does a woman want?!!! Big question right! I don’t think any school of thought has the right answer to that question. Especially an African woman! No offence meant.


While you can’t possibly hope to be the Superman who pleases all, there are some universal traits that seem to tick all the boxes women look for in a life partner.

Read on to learn some of those qualities.



We all have big egos – men and women alike. We want to feel special. We want to feel unique and better than the rest. We’re competitive by nature and there is no getting around it. Women want a man who sees the world in her. Her and only her.

She knows she’s not the most beautiful or smartest woman in the world, but she doesn’t need to be – she’s not delusional. She just wants you to think – know – that she’s the most beautiful, best woman in the world for you.

She needs you to think she is the best thing that ever happened to you. She wants to be the best and she wants a man who will allot her that title.



You don’t need to be a millionaire. Well, for some women, you very well may need to be, but hopefully, you’ll only end up with one who admires the traits required for turning oneself into a millionaire and not the money alone. Generally speaking, the right woman will love you for you, but she does need you to make her feel secure.


She wants to feel that you will protect her from physical harm. She wants to know that you’ll keep her safe, healthy and comfortable. Does she need you to keep her safe? To bring home the bread? No. But she’d like you to be capable of it – even if her salary is bigger than yours. She’ll have your back too so you can rest easier as well.


Women are attracted to men who strive to be the best they can be. Men who set themselves clear goals and actively pursue them possess an appealing strength of character. This is the type of man a woman will feel safe depending on – someone who knows what he wants and can make it happen.


According to research, the main thing women look for in men other than physical attraction is “kinder gentler mates who can provide for their young”. Seems those gender roles are still subconsciously yet firmly in place.



A woman doesn’t want a man to lie to her about important matters. She wants to be an important part of his life – the most important part, in fact. She wants to know the things that are going on his life and she wants him to have trust in her. As far as she is concerned, they are one – his life is her life.


She wants him to want to share in his pleasant experiences and memories. She also doesn’t want him to feel that he has to lie, because when that is the case it usually means that he was stepping out of line, making poor choices and mistakes.


On the other hand, she doesn’t want the truth in all circumstances. Brutal honesty isn’t always wanted.


If she asks, she looks great, she looks beautiful, the fact she gained 15 pounds doesn’t bother you, her new haircut makes her look more beautiful.


However, the only thing you should really lie about should be shallow matters such as appearances. We all look like he*l sometimes – but she doesn’t need to hear you say it. She wants to know you still find her beautiful!



A woman doesn’t only want a man to have love only for her, but a love for life, for living things. She wants a kind man, a man whom others will look up to, appreciate and admire. She wants a good man.


She doesn’t see being good and compassionate as a weakness. She doesn’t need you to be cruel, cold or spiteful. You don’t need that either. No one does.



She wants you to be there for her when she needs someone, to be there to share her burden. She wants you to make her life a little easier. On the flip side, she’ll be there for you when no one else will. Nice bargain I think!


By caring, she also wants you to understand her. She wants you to know her – inside and out. Why? Because only then will you love her for her.


We all sometimes need confirmation that we’re worth loving. The real us – not the people others perceive us to be. We may not all need such a confirmation of our value, but we all want it. But it’s more than just that.

Having someone understand you is having someone completely know you for the person that you really are. There’s no confusion, there’s no misunderstanding or misconception.




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